This mom says she found a way to magically stops her kids from interrupting her
She's calling it a "break through"
Updated: 9:45 AM EDT Jul 19, 2017
No matter how much you love your children, every mom and dad knows that it can get pretty annoying to be constantly interrupted by eager little ones. Sure, toddlers are still learning how to control their impulses, and older children may simply want to be a part of the conversation, but that doesn't make the repetitive "Mommy, Mommy, Mommy" or even "'scuse me, 'scuse me, 'scuse me" any less irritating. Of course, patience on the parents' part is important, but ultimately, it's about teaching kids boundaries (and good-old-fashioned manners!). One mom-and-dad blogging team, Jessica and Jeremy Martin-Weber of Beyond Moi, say they've found a solution to stop their kids from interrupting them—and it's so simple."We have taught our children to demonstrate when they have something to share by gently laying a hand on our arm if we are speaking or listening to someone else at that moment," Jessica wrote in a Facebook post. "So they know we're aware they want to say something, we physically respond in some way such as putting our hand over their hand or gently touching their back or holding their hand."As several commenters point out, this technique has been used for generations and in settings ranging from Montessori schools to Cub Scouts. A similar practice (holding hands until there's a stopping place in the conversation) was trending two years ago, which prompted a Huffington Post author to call the approach "soul crushing": Her daughter either forgot what she was going to say or completely lost her desire to share her thoughts. "Their enthusiasm lives in the present moment and when they need to express that enthusiasm, it needs to happen immediately," she wrote. "There is nothing wrong with that. Sure it's a little chaotic sometimes, but I'd rather that than to squash their enthusiasm!"For what it's worth, Positive Parenting Connection lists "special code and hand signal" as one effective method (there's also respectfully asking them to wait and modeling attentive listening yourself). Clearly, it's not for everyone. It will depend on the parent and the child. And it's not always applicable—for example, as another commenter pointed out, it doesn't work in the car, where your kids can't physically reach you. "In those times we ask us all to try to remember to wait and to try to remember to acknowledge someone even when they interrupt with something like 'I hear that you want to tell me something, I need you to wait until the conversation happening now can pause. Thank you,'" Jessica replied. "Sometimes I just say 'Just a minute, I hear you.'"Until now, the concept has been too tough for her youngest, a three-year-old, to grasp. So they kept practicing, and eventually she caught on, as evidenced by the photo Beyond Moi shared.
No matter how much you love your children, every mom and dad knows that it can get pretty annoying to be constantly interrupted by eager little ones. Sure, toddlers are still learning how to , and older children may simply want to be a part of the conversation, but that doesn't make the repetitive "Mommy, Mommy, Mommy" or even "'scuse me, 'scuse me, 'scuse me" any less irritating. Of course, patience on the parents' part is important, but ultimately, it's about teaching kids boundaries (and !).
One mom-and-dad blogging team, Jessica and Jeremy Martin-Weber of , say they've found a solution to stop their kids from interrupting them—and it's so simple.
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"We have taught our children to demonstrate when they have something to share by gently laying a hand on our arm if we are speaking or listening to someone else at that moment," Jessica wrote in a . "So they know we're aware they want to say something, we physically respond in some way such as putting our hand over their hand or gently touching their back or holding their hand."
As several commenters point out, this technique has been used for generations and in settings ranging from Montessori schools to Cub Scouts. A similar practice (holding hands until there's a stopping place in the conversation) was trending two years ago, which prompted a author to call the approach "soul crushing": Her daughter either forgot what she was going to say or completely lost her desire to share her thoughts. "Their enthusiasm lives in the present moment and when they need to express that enthusiasm, it needs to happen immediately," she wrote. "There is nothing wrong with that. Sure it's a little chaotic sometimes, but I'd rather that than to squash their enthusiasm!"
For what it's worth, lists "special code and hand signal" as one effective method (there's also respectfully asking them to wait and modeling attentive listening yourself). Clearly, it's not for everyone. It will depend on the parent and the child. And it's not always applicable—for example, as another commenter pointed out, it doesn't work in the car, where your kids can't physically reach you.
"In those times we ask us all to try to remember to wait and to try to remember to acknowledge someone even when they interrupt with something like 'I hear that you want to tell me something, I need you to wait until the conversation happening now can pause. Thank you,'" Jessica replied. "Sometimes I just say 'Just a minute, I hear you.'"
Until now, the concept has been too tough for her youngest, a three-year-old, to grasp. So they kept practicing, and eventually she caught on, as evidenced by the photo Beyond Moi shared.